by Ester yusufu | 2 September 2019 08:46 pm09
ANSWER:
After Eve disobeyed God by eating the fruit from the tree He had forbidden, God pronounced judgments on the serpent, the woman, and the man. One specific consequence for the woman was this:
“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”
— Genesis 3:16
At first glance, this might sound like romantic longing or affection, but a deeper theological and linguistic understanding reveals that it refers to something much more complex—a desire to control or dominate, leading to a power struggle in the marriage relationship.
When Satan tempted Eve in Genesis 3:5, he appealed to her ambition:
“For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
— Genesis 3:5
This temptation stirred in her a desire to rise above her God-given position—to gain wisdom, power, and independence from God’s command. Theologically, this reflects the sin of pride, which is the root of many other sins (Isaiah 14:12–14; Proverbs 16:18). This desire to be “like God” was not just about knowledge, but about control and self-rule.
Adam, although created first (1 Timothy 2:13), did not display this same ambition. His failure was passivity, not pride. But for Eve, this desire for autonomy and dominance became central—and it was this tendency that God addressed when He said, “Your desire will be for your husband.”
The Hebrew word used here for desire is “teshuqah”, which appears only a few times in Scripture. The most relevant parallel is in Genesis 4:7, where God says to Cain:
“Sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”
— Genesis 4:7
In both cases, the word “desire” (teshuqah) implies a controlling or dominating urge, and “rule” implies conflict over authority. This clearly shows that the “desire” mentioned in Genesis 3:16 is not about affection, but about power and influence—a struggle for control in the relationship.
This verse marks the beginning of relational disorder between man and woman—a distortion of God’s original design (Genesis 2:18–25). Sin introduced rivalry where there was once unity. The woman would desire to control, but the man, in turn, would dominate her—often harshly. This was not God’s original intent but a consequence of sin.
It’s crucial to understand that Genesis 3:16 is a description of the fallen condition, not a prescription for how relationships should be. It’s not God’s command for men to rule over women by force—it’s a revelation of what happens when sin governs relationships.
That’s why, in the New Testament, we see a redemptive model of marriage through Jesus Christ.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
— Ephesians 5:25
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”
— Ephesians 5:22
This isn’t oppression—it’s mutual submission under Christ (see Ephesians 5:21). Husbands are called to lead in love and self-sacrifice, not in domination or pride. Wives are called to follow in humility and trust, not in fear.
Through Jesus, we are no longer slaves to the consequences of sin. Christ became a curse for us, so that we could be free from the curse of the fall:
“Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us…”
— Galatians 3:13
This means that in Christian marriage, the pattern of power struggle can be broken. Husbands no longer rule by force, and wives no longer compete for control. Instead, both serve each other in love and reverence for Christ.
“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
— Galatians 3:28
This verse doesn’t erase gender roles—it restores dignity and equality in Christ, removing the strife caused by sin.
So when God said, “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you,” He was describing the broken dynamics of marriage after the fall. But through the gospel of Christ, we are invited to something better—a marriage built on grace, love, and servant leadership, modeled after Christ and His Church.
In Christ, the curse is overcome, and true unity between man and woman can be restored.
Be blessed.
— Answer rooted in Genesis 3:16, Ephesians 5, Galatians 3:13 & 28
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