by esther phinias | 27 December 2019 08:46 pm12
Marriage is one of God’s most sacred institutions. But what exactly is it? The Bible reveals both earthly marriage and the greater reality of the heavenly marriage. Understanding both helps us see marriage not merely as a social contract but as a divine covenant that reflects the relationship between Christ and His Church.
1. Earthly Marriage
At its core, earthly marriage is the union of one man and one woman, joined together physically and spiritually under God’s covenant.
The very first marriage was ordained in Eden:
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
Genesis 2:21–22 (NKJV)
God Himself performed the first wedding by presenting Eve to Adam. This shows that marriage is not man-made, but a divine gift. Eve was not taken from Adam’s head to rule over him, nor from his feet to be trampled by him, but from his side—signifying equality, companionship, and shared purpose.
Jesus reaffirmed God’s original design in Matthew 19:4–6 (ESV):
Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.
This leaves no room for polygamy, same-sex unions, or casual partnerships. Biblical marriage is exclusively one man and one woman in covenant before God.
2. Marriage as a Covenant
Marriage is more than a contract—it is a covenant sealed before God. Malachi 2:14 (NASB) calls a wife “your companion and your wife by covenant.” Breaking this covenant is not just betrayal against a spouse; it is sin against God who witnesses the union.
That’s why Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV) declares:
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
A marriage is meant to display God’s holiness, faithfulness, and love. To defile it through immorality or dishonor is to invite judgment.
3. The Calling to Marriage and Singleness
Not everyone is required to marry. Paul highlights the unique advantages of remaining single for the sake of the kingdom:
I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:32–33 (ESV)
Both singleness and marriage are gifts (1 Corinthians 7:7). Marriage provides companionship (Genesis 2:18), partnership in godliness (Ecclesiastes 4:9–12), and a context for raising godly children (Malachi 2:15). Singleness provides undistracted devotion to the Lord. Neither is lesser; both glorify Christ when lived in obedience.
4. The Heavenly Marriage
All earthly marriages point to a greater reality: the union between Christ and His Church.
Paul explains this profound mystery in Ephesians 5:31–32 (NKJV):
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Christ is the Bridegroom (John 3:29; Revelation 19:7).
The Church is His Bride (2 Corinthians 11:2; Revelation 21:2).
The marriage covenant reflects Christ’s sacrificial love: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.
(Ephesians 5:25 NKJV).
This heavenly marriage will be consummated at the Marriage Supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:6–9), where the redeemed are united forever with Christ.
5. Preparing for Marriage
Because marriage is holy, preparation is essential. Scripture warns against rushing into it without understanding the covenant:
Luke 14:28 (NASB) reminds us:
For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate the cost, to see if he has enough to complete it?
In the same way, marriage requires sober preparation—spiritually, emotionally, and practically. Entering lightly brings dishonor and judgment, but entering with reverence brings blessing.
6. The Eternal Perspective
Finally, Jesus taught that marriage belongs to this age, not the age to come:
For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven.
Matthew 22:30 (NKJV)
This truth reminds us that while marriage is precious, it is temporary. The eternal relationship that matters most is with Christ Himself. Without Him, even the best earthly marriage cannot save.
Mark 8:36 (NKJV) asks:
For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?
Before seeking a husband or wife, seek Christ. He is the true Bridegroom, the source of salvation, and the hope of eternal joy.
Conclusion
Marriage is honorable, holy, and blessed by God. It is to be entered with reverence, lived with faithfulness, and treasured as a reflection of Christ’s love. Yet above all, our greatest need is not an earthly spouse but the heavenly Bridegroom—Jesus Christ.
Maranatha! Come, Lord Jesus.
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