by Rogath Henry | 25 October 2021 08:46 am10
I greet you in the glorious Name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Welcome to Part Two of this article that addresses conflicts in marriage. In the first part, we examined the man’s side. Today, we turn our attention to the woman’s side, beginning from the conflict that arose in the very first marriage—Adam’s marriage.
If you did not read Part One, you may contact us and we will gladly share the analysis with you.
You must understand and accept this foundational biblical truth: the husband is the head of the family. The very first marriage was shaken through the woman, showing us that many marital conflicts—even today—originate from the woman’s side.
This happens largely because women can easily open doors for the devil to deceive them—leading them to believe they can make independent decisions without involving their husbands or even God. This is extremely dangerous.
Do not attempt this, woman of God. You will destroy your own marriage with your own hands.
Instead, begin to walk in obedience, as Scripture clearly teaches:
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
(Ephesians 5:22–24)
Biblical submission is not slavery or inferiority—it is divine order. Just as Christ submits to the Father in function (1 Corinthians 11:3), and the Church submits to Christ, so the wife submits to her husband within God’s structure of authority.
Obedience protects marriage.
If your husband asks you to return home early—obey.
If he asks you to cook—obey.
If he asks you to wash clothes—do not say, “Isn’t there a house girl?”—obey.
If he advises you not to engage in a certain activity—obey, because he is the head.
Remove pride from your heart. You are not the head. When you try to assume that role, the devil will offer you alternative strategies—such as seeking emotional or financial support from other men outside your marriage, thinking you are punishing your husband. In reality, you are destroying yourself.
This is exactly what Eve did when she sought counsel from the serpent instead of her husband and God.
“Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made.”
(Genesis 3:1)
The same strategy Satan used on Eve is the same one he will use on you—if you do not remain in your God-given position. Regret comes later, not during moments of pride.
A woman can never succeed by separating herself from her husband. It will never work.
A man may struggle and still survive, but for a woman, separation brings deep loss of identity and stability. Scripture teaches that the woman was created from the man:
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.”
(Genesis 2:23)
Outside the covenant of marriage, a wife loses divine covering and order. No matter how much income you have, how intelligent you are, or how independent you feel—life outside your marital covenant is spiritual death.
All these virtues—obedience, prayer, holiness, forgiveness—are impossible without Christ.
“Apart from Me you can do nothing.”
(John 15:5)
The first step, therefore, is to give your life to Christ.
If you are ready to do so today, pray this prayer sincerely and in faith. Find a quiet place, kneel if possible, and pray aloud:
“O God the Father, I come before You acknowledging that I am a sinner and that I have committed many sins, and that I deserve judgment—especially for wounding my marriage.
But You, my God, have said in Your Word that You are a merciful God who shows mercy to thousands who love You.
Today I come before You seeking Your forgiveness and Your help. I repent of all my sins sincerely and with all my heart.
I confess that Jesus Christ is Lord and that He is the Savior of this world.
I ask that the blood of Your holy Son cleanse me from all unrighteousness now, that I may become a new creation from today and forever.
Thank You Lord Jesus for receiving me and forgiving me.
Amen.”
“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come.”
(2 Corinthians 5:17)
If you prayed this prayer in faith, know that Christ has forgiven you. From today onward, take responsibility for your marriage.
Marriage thrives when divine order is honored. The breakdown of many marriages is not due to lack of love, but lack of submission to God’s structure.
“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.”
(Psalm 127:1)
May God bless you abundantly.
Maranatha.
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