by Prisca | 9 December 2021 08:46 am12
Grace and peace to you in the mighty name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
Today, let’s explore a foundational biblical principle: If you desire a God ordained spouse, you must position yourself in the environment where God reveals His will. This teaching is not about formulas but about alignment aligning yourself with God’s purposes, character, and presence.
The world offers a very different path to finding a spouse one focused on external appearances, popularity, sensuality, and status. To attract worldly attention, people often adopt worldly behaviors: dressing seductively, attending constant parties, flaunting themselves on social media, and following celebrity trends. But this approach is rooted in the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life all of which are not from the Father.
“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.”
1 John 2:15 (NIV)
God, however, does not operate through outward appearance or cultural popularity. He searches the heart.
“People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 (NIV)
Let’s consider Isaac a man of promise and covenant. His story provides a beautiful example of how God orchestrates relationships when we are walking in obedience and spiritual focus.
Genesis 24:62–63 (NIV)
“Now Isaac had come from Beer Lahai Roi, for he was living in the Negev. He went out to the field one evening to meditate, and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching.”
Isaac wasn’t looking for a wife through worldly efforts. He was meditating a word that suggests prayerful reflection, likely communing with God in solitude. This posture of spiritual attentiveness is significant: it was in that environment that God revealed Rebekah, his future wife.
Psalm 1:2 (NIV)
“But whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night.”
This setting wasn’t coincidental. Abraham, Isaac’s father, was careful to ensure that Isaac’s wife came from his ancestral household not from the surrounding Canaanite culture, which was steeped in idolatry. This act of faith and obedience demonstrates how serious the covenant of marriage was, not just emotionally or culturally, but theologically.
Genesis 24:3–4 (NIV)
“I want you to swear by the Lord… that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites… but go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac.”
Rebekah herself was also found in a posture of humility, service, and hospitality she offered water not only to the servant but to his camels, which was no small task (Genesis 24:18–20). Her character was godly, her heart was ready, and her actions spoke louder than appearance.
Isaac’s time in the field symbolized withdrawal from noise and engagement with God. He chose to spend time in the presence of God, and it was in that very moment that God revealed his future wife. He did not strive, flirt, or chase he meditated. That is how God’s blessings often arrive: not in the frenzy, but in the stillness.
Psalm 46:10 (NIV)
“Be still, and know that I am God.”
Matthew 6:33 (NIV)
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Brothers, if you desire a godly woman one who fears the Lord and walks in virtue don’t chase the world. Be like Isaac. Develop a relationship with God in the secret place. Let your strength come from devotion, not display.
Remember, Rebekah was both beautiful and godly, but Isaac found her while seeking God, not women.
Proverbs 31:30 (NIV)
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
Sisters, if you desire a man of integrity and spiritual maturity, don’t conform to worldly patterns. The world will tell you that beauty, flirtation, and popularity will get you a husband but what kind of man are you attracting that way? You don’t need to dress like Jezebel to be noticed live like a daughter of Sarah.
1 Peter 3:3–4 (NIV)
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment… Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
God does not abandon His children. David testifies of this truth in his later years:
Psalm 37:25 (NIV)
“I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.”
This includes the desire for marriage. God will not withhold what is good from those who walk uprightly.
Psalm 84:11 (NIV)
“No good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless.”
If you’ve been walking in the patterns of the world, now is the time to return to God. Repentance is not just a feeling it’s a decision to turn away from sin and toward righteousness.
Romans 12:2 (NIV)
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Renounce the ways of the world the revealing outfits, the prideful trends, and the empty pursuit of attention. Don’t worry if people call you “old-fashioned” or “religious.” God is not looking for relevance; He is looking for righteousness.
As you dwell in His presence, He will prepare your heart and the heart of your future spouse. When the time is right, He will orchestrate the meeting just as He did for Isaac and Rebekah.
Ecclesiastes 3:11 (NIV)
“He has made everything beautiful in its time.”
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
Psalm 37:4 (NIV)
Marriage is not just a romantic arrangement it’s a spiritual covenant. Trust God to write your story. Stay in the field. Stay in prayer. Stay in purity.
The Lord bless you and keep you.
May He guide your steps and fulfill His perfect will in your life.
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