{"id":56236,"date":"2019-04-30T23:13:37","date_gmt":"2019-04-30T20:13:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wingulamashahidi.org\/?p=56236"},"modified":"2025-09-23T20:51:03","modified_gmt":"2025-09-23T17:51:03","slug":"is-it-lawful-to-marry-many-wives-or-to-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wingulamashahidi.org\/en\/2019\/04\/30\/is-it-lawful-to-marry-many-wives-or-to-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Is It Lawful to Marry Many Wives or to Divorce?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Shalom, child of God. Welcome!<\/strong>
\nLet us reflect on the Scriptures and learn from the Word of God together. Today, by the grace of our Lord, we will explore a subject that has caused much debate among believers: Why did God seemingly allow men in the Old Testament to marry multiple wives?<\/strong> And is it lawful to divorce?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This issue has caused confusion for many Christians, especially those without the full illumination of the Holy Spirit. But when we examine Scripture carefully, we discover God’s heart and original design for marriage.<\/p>\n

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1. Did God Ever Command Polygamy?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The first point to understand is this:
\nNowhere in the Bible did God ever command or encourage a man to marry more than one wife.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You may ask, \u201cBut what about Deuteronomy 21:15 or 25:5, which mention multiple wives?\u201d<\/em> Yes, those verses mention<\/strong> polygamy, but they do not<\/strong> establish it as God’s will. They are regulations<\/strong>, not endorsements<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

To understand God\u2019s intent, let\u2019s look at:<\/p>\n

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Deuteronomy 17:14\u201320<\/strong> (ESV)<\/h3>\n

14<\/strong> \u201cWhen you come to the land that the Lord your God is giving you, and you possess it and dwell in it and then say, \u2018I will set a king over me, like all the nations that are around me,\u2019
\n15<\/strong> you may indeed set a king over you whom the Lord your God will choose…
\n17<\/strong> And he shall not acquire many wives for himself, lest his heart turn away, nor shall he acquire for himself excessive silver and gold.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Here, God is giving instructions for a future king <\/strong>a king the people would eventually demand (against His original will). And one of those commands is: Do not multiply wives<\/strong>. Why? Because many wives would turn the king\u2019s heart away<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

So if polygamy truly were God\u2019s will, why would He warn against it<\/strong> here?<\/p>\n

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2. The Demand for a King Was Not God’s Original Plan<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Although Deuteronomy 17 gives laws about kings, it does not<\/strong> mean God originally wanted Israel to have a king like the nations around them. In fact, when they eventually demanded one, God was displeased:<\/p>\n

1 Samuel 8:4\u20137<\/strong> (NIV)<\/h3>\n

6<\/strong> But when they said, \u201cGive us a king to lead us,\u201d this displeased Samuel; so he prayed to the Lord.
\n7<\/strong> And the Lord told him: \u201cListen to all that the people are saying to you; it is not you they have rejected, but they have rejected me as their king<\/strong>.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This passage reveals that Israel’s demand for a human king was a rejection of God\u2019s rulership<\/strong>.
\nSimilarly, their practices of polygamy and divorce were departures from God’s original will <\/strong>not things He ever commanded.<\/p>\n

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3. God Permitted Polygamy and Divorce Because of Hard Hearts<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Just as God gave Israel laws concerning kings because of their disobedience<\/strong>, He also gave regulations<\/strong> for marriage, polygamy, and divorce not as ideals<\/strong>, but as concessions<\/strong> due to the hardness of their hearts.<\/p>\n

This is confirmed by Jesus Himself<\/strong>, who clarified God\u2019s original intention for marriage.<\/p>\n

Matthew 19:3\u20138<\/strong> (ESV)<\/h3>\n

3<\/strong> And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, \u201cIs it lawful to divorce one\u2019s wife for any cause?\u201d
\n4<\/strong> He answered, \u201cHave you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female,
\n5<\/strong> and said, \u2018Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh\u2019?
\n6<\/strong> So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.\u201d
\n7<\/strong> They said to him, \u201cWhy then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?\u201d
\n8<\/strong> He said to them, \u201cBecause of your hardness of heart<\/strong> Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so<\/strong>.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Jesus reaffirms: God’s design is one man, one woman united for life<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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4. Jesus Restores God\u2019s Original Design for Marriage<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Jesus is greater than Moses<\/strong>, greater than the prophets<\/strong>, and greater than the Old Covenant<\/strong> (Hebrews 1:1\u20132). In Him, we see the fullness of God\u2019s will for human relationships.<\/p>\n

Colossians 2:9<\/strong> (NKJV)<\/h3>\n

\u201cFor in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Therefore, what Jesus says about marriage overrides all previous permissions given under the Old Covenant due to sin.<\/p>\n

To follow Jesus is to return to God’s original design: One man, one wife<\/strong>.
\nMultiple wives or divorcing for convenience is against God’s revealed will<\/strong> in Christ.<\/p>\n

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5. What About Divorce Today?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

According to Jesus, the only valid reason for divorce is sexual immorality<\/strong> (Matthew 19:9). Other reasons such as disagreement, incompatibility, or conflict do not<\/strong> justify divorce in God\u2019s eyes.<\/p>\n