Ecclesiastes 7:20–22 (NIV)
“Indeed, there is no one on earth who is righteous, no one who does what is right and never sins.
Do not pay attention to every word people say, or you may hear your servant cursing you—
for you know in your heart that many times you yourself have cursed others.”
A Word to the Wise
The books of Proverbs and Ecclesiastes are rich with wisdom for everyday life, not just spiritual matters. Both books were written by King Solomon, a man granted exceptional wisdom by God. Today, we focus on one important life lesson from Ecclesiastes 7:20–22—how to protect our hearts from unnecessary pain caused by others’ words.
The Reality of Being Misunderstood or Spoken Against
As we live among people—family, friends, coworkers, even fellow believers—we are bound to encounter criticism, gossip, or harsh words. Regardless of how good or righteous you strive to be, people will talk. Sometimes, these words may be unjust, unfair, or even deeply hurtful. But Solomon gives us sound advice: do not take everything you hear to heart.
Why? Because not everything said about you is worth your emotional energy. Some things, even if offensive, are better ignored—for the sake of your peace and spiritual health.
The Trap of Obsessive Curiosity
Often when we hear a rumor or learn someone has spoken ill of us, our first reaction is to investigate.
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Who said it?
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Why did they say it?
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Who told them about me?
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Where did this information come from?
Before long, we are on an endless trail of suspicion, interrogation, and bitterness. This can even lead us to resentment toward people we love or trust—spouses, children, siblings, church members, or friends.
Solomon warns us: if we go down that road, we may end up hearing things we were never meant to hear. Even someone as close as a servant or a trusted friend may be overheard cursing us. The result? Unnecessary heartbreak.
A Sobering Reminder of Our Own Imperfections
Before rushing to anger or judgment, Solomon urges us to reflect:
Have you never spoken negatively about someone in private?
If you’re honest, you’ll admit—yes, you have. Perhaps you said something carelessly, or vented in a moment of weakness. Maybe you didn’t mean it with hatred, but the words came out anyway. That’s human nature—we are all flawed.
So, if we know we’ve done the same to others, why then hold others to a standard we ourselves can’t meet? The scripture reminds us: “for you know in your heart that many times you yourself have cursed others.” (Ecclesiastes 7:22)
The Spiritual Danger of Holding Grudges
Many believers, unfortunately, allow these offenses to plant seeds of bitterness. They become consumed by anger, unable to forgive. Their prayers shift from praise and surrender to complaints and cries for vengeance. Their hearts grow cold, their joy disappears, and their faith begins to wither.
Ironically, the person they’re angry at may not even be aware—or may have already repented and moved on. But the offended believer remains imprisoned by unforgiveness, all because they chose to dwell on a hurtful word.
Let It Go—for the Sake of Your Soul
The enemy (Satan) thrives on division and wounded hearts. When we dwell on gossip or negative speech, we are doing the devil’s work for him. We become bitter, paranoid, and emotionally exhausted.
Instead, choose peace. Choose to focus on the weightier matters of your faith—grace, love, and spiritual growth. Choose to overlook offenses (Proverbs 19:11) and to forgive freely, as Christ has forgiven us (Ephesians 4:32).
No one is perfect. If you’re looking for a friend, spouse, or church member who will never offend or disappoint you, you’ll never find one. Learn to release and walk in love.
A Final Call to Salvation
Friend, have you given your life to Jesus Christ? These are the last days, and the Bible warns us that the return of the Lord is near (Matthew 24:33, Revelation 22:12). If you’ve been living lukewarm—caught up in offense, unforgiveness, or sin—it’s time to come home.
Salvation begins with repentance and a sincere surrender of your life to Jesus. He offers forgiveness, healing, and eternal life. Don’t wait until it’s too late. These are the “wounded minutes” of spiritual warfare. The King is at the door.
Maranatha—The Lord is coming.
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