Should Christians Observe the 40-Day Memorial or Visit Graves for Rituals After a Funeral?
Many believers wonder whether it’s right to observe the 40-day memorial after someone dies, or to visit graves to pray or perform rituals. These practices may feel respectful, but are they biblical? Let’s explore their origins and see what Scripture says.
1. The Origin of the 40 – Day Memorial
The tradition of the 40-day memorial did not begin with Christianity. It actually comes from ancient Egyptian practices. When a notable person (like a king) died, the Egyptians would embalm the body for 40 days—applying preserving substances daily to prevent decay. After 40 days, the body would be wrapped and placed in a special coffin designed to last for centuries.
The Bible describes how Joseph, while living in Egypt, followed this Egyptian custom when his father Jacob (Israel) died:
Genesis 50:2–3
“Then Joseph directed the physicians in his service to embalm his father Israel. So the physicians embalmed him, taking a full forty days, for that was the time required for embalming. And the Egyptians mourned for him seventy days.”
Important note: this was not an Israelite practice—it was Egyptian. Joseph used it because he had lived most of his life in Egypt and adapted to its customs. But after God gave the Law through Moses, embalming and similar rituals were never commanded among God’s people.
Yes, the use of perfume or spices (like myrrh and aloes) was practiced for honoring the dead (see John 19:39), but there’s no biblical instruction to do this for 40 days, or as part of a spiritual ritual.
2. How the Tradition Entered Christianity
Centuries later, some began to associate the 40-day memorial with the 40 days Jesus appeared to His disciples after His resurrection. Based on this, a belief developed that a person’s soul roams the earth for 40 days before going to its final destination.
This idea led to the belief that prayers and rituals offered during these 40 days could influence the fate of the deceased—helping them reach heaven or avoid hell. Some people feel guilty if they don’t participate, thinking they’ve failed their loved ones spiritually.
3. What Does the Bible Actually Teach About Death?
The Bible clearly teaches that when a person dies, their eternal destiny is immediately sealed. There is no waiting period and no second chance after death.
Hebrews 9:27
“Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment…”
Luke 16:22–23 (The story of Lazarus and the rich man)
“The time came when the beggar died and the angels carried him to Abraham’s side. The rich man also died and was buried. In Hades, where he was in torment, he looked up…”
In both examples, the souls of the dead immediately went to their final destinations—paradise or torment. There is no biblical evidence of a soul wandering for 40 days.
Moreover, Jesus’ 40 days after resurrection were not the actions of a spirit or ghost. He had a glorified, physical body (Luke 24:39), and His tomb was empty—not because His spirit left, but because He was alive.
Luke 24:39
“Look at my hands and my feet. It is I myself! Touch me and see; a ghost does not have flesh and bones, as you see I have.”
So, equating Jesus’ post-resurrection appearances with 40-day soul wandering is theologically inaccurate and misleading.
4. Should Christians Participate in 40-Day Memorials?
The 40-day memorial is not a biblical command or Christian requirement—it’s a cultural practice. Participating in it as a spiritual ritual (to benefit the dead) is not supported by Scripture.
That said, if you’re invited to such a gathering by family or friends who don’t know the truth yet, you can choose to attend out of love—but do so with wisdom. Don’t participate in rituals for the dead. Instead, use the opportunity to show the love of Christ and, when possible, share the hope of eternal life in Jesus.
5. What About Visiting Graves?
Visiting graves is not wrong in itself. It can be a sign of respect, remembrance, and maintaining order (just like caring for a garden or home). However, visiting graves for the purpose of praying to the dead, seeking their blessing, or trying to change their eternal fate is unbiblical.
Deuteronomy 18:10–12 strongly warns against communicating with the dead:
“Let no one be found among you… who practices divination or sorcery… or who consults the dead. Anyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord…”
Our prayers are to be directed to God alone, not the departed.
Our hope is in the resurrection of Jesus Christ, who conquered death and offers eternal life to all who believe in Him—now, not 40 days later.
John 11:25–26
“Jesus said to her, ‘I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?'”
“Take Him Safely”
Have you ever made a decision thinking it was harmless, only to realize later that it caused much more damage than you ever expected? That’s what happened to Judas Iscariot—a man who walked with Jesus, saw miracles, heard truth from the source of life—and yet made a tragic choice that led to his death.
Judas’ Intention Wasn’t Murder—It Was Money
Many people assume Judas betrayed Jesus purely out of hatred. But Scripture paints a more complex picture. Judas’ betrayal stemmed from greed, not necessarily a desire to see Jesus die.
“Then one of the Twelve—the one called Judas Iscariot—went to the chief priests and asked, ‘What are you willing to give me if I deliver him over to you?’ So they counted out for him thirty pieces of silver.”
— Matthew 26:14–15
The price Judas accepted was the cost of a slave (Exodus 21:32), signaling that he had already devalued Jesus in his heart.
But here’s what many overlook: Judas assumed that after Jesus was arrested, He would be rebuked or punished—but not killed. We see that in Judas’ own words during the betrayal:
“Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: ‘The one I kiss is the man; arrest him and lead him away safely.’”
— Mark 14:44
Those last three words—“lead him away safely”—show that Judas never intended harm on Jesus. He believed things would go differently.
The Tragedy of Misjudging Sin
But Judas had completely misjudged the seriousness of his actions. When he realized the religious leaders had already condemned Jesus to death, he was overwhelmed with remorse.
“When Judas, who had betrayed him, saw that Jesus was condemned, he was seized with remorse and returned the thirty pieces of silver… ‘I have sinned,’ he said, ‘for I have betrayed innocent blood.’”
— Matthew 27:3–4
This moment is crucial theologically: Judas acknowledged Jesus’ innocence, fulfilling Isaiah 53:9
“…though he had done no violence, nor was any deceit in his mouth.”
— Isaiah 53:9b
But remorse is not the same as repentance. Judas felt guilty, but rather than returning to Jesus for forgiveness, he turned inward and ultimately took his own life.
“So Judas threw the money into the temple and left. Then he went away and hanged himself.”
— Matthew 27:5
His story mirrors 2 Corinthians 7:10:
“Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.”
— 2 Corinthians 7:10
Judas experienced worldly sorrow—pain without restoration—because he missed the one thing that could save him: returning to Jesus.
The Deceptive Nature of Sin
Judas’ story is a warning: sin often looks like a small, manageable decision. You might think, “I’ll just do this once. I can always repent later.” But sin doesn’t come with a warning label—it comes with a wage.
“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
— Romans 6:23
Notice, it says “wages,” not “punishment.” That means sin earns death as its natural result—not always immediately, but ultimately and inevitably.
Sin is not measured by how it feels or what you’ve gotten away with in the past. It’s measured by what God says it produces: spiritual death, brokenness, and separation from Him.
Even Samson, who thought he could toy with sin, found himself blind, chained, and broken (Judges 16). Just like Judas, he didn’t expect that moment to be his last.
Betrayal and Sovereignty
Though Judas acted out of free will and was held accountable, Scripture also affirms that Jesus’ death was not an accident—it was part of God’s sovereign plan for redemption.
“This man was handed over to you by God’s deliberate plan and foreknowledge; and you, with the help of wicked men, put him to death…”
— Acts 2:23
This paradox teaches us two things:
- God’s plan of salvation will not be stopped, even by betrayal.
- We are still responsible for the choices we make—even when we think we know how they’ll turn out
Don’t Underestimate Sin
You might be in a place where you’re tempted to “just sin once” and then repent later. But what if that sin leads you further than you planned to go? What if, like Judas, it introduces consequences you never saw coming?
Let me lovingly warn you:
That relationship you’re planning to compromise for, that secret sin you’re justifying in your heart—it could become the turning point of your spiritual downfall.
As one preacher said, “Don’t be afraid of the devil—be afraid of sin.”
Because Scripture never says the wages of the devil is death.
It says:
“The wages of sin is death.”
— Romans 6:23
Final Prayer
Lord Jesus, open our eyes to see the true cost of sin. Give us grace to resist temptation, strength to walk in obedience, and the wisdom to run to You—not away from You—when we fall. May we never trade temporary gain for eternal loss. Amen.
WHAT IS GENTLENESS?
Definition & Illustration
Gentleness is the ability to stay calm, kind, and nonviolent—even when you have the strength or right to respond otherwise. It is not weakness; rather, it is strength under control. It is the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) and a reflection of Christ’s character.
Imagine the difference between a snake and a cow. The snake is small, weak, and limbless, but it’s quick to strike. A cow, however, is massive, strong, and horned—but we feel safer around it. Why? Because a cow is naturally gentle, whereas a snake attacks even without provocation.
This shows us that gentleness isn’t about physical strength—it’s about inner strength and self-control.
GENTLENESS IN SCRIPTURE: TWO BIBLICAL EXAMPLES
1. Jesus Christ – The Gentle Savior
Jesus Himself described His character:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
— Matthew 11:28-30
Jesus was gentle like a lamb (John 1:29). The Holy Spirit descended on Him in the form of a dove (Luke 3:22), symbolizing peace and purity. A dove won’t rest in a place of noise or chaos, nor on a fierce animal—it seeks stillness. That’s why the Spirit rested on Jesus: He was spiritually calm, pure, and obedient.
Although He is also called the Lion of Judah (Revelation 5:5)—a symbol of power—He chose to come in gentleness. That’s real meekness: possessing great power, but restraining it in love. Philippians 2:6-7 tells us that though Jesus was divine, He “did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage,” but humbled Himself.
His gentleness attracted people. It still does today.
2. Moses – The Humble Leader
Scripture says this about Moses:
“Now Moses was a very humble man, more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth.”
— Numbers 12:3
The Hebrew word used here also implies gentleness. Despite his great authority and prophetic power, Moses did not boast or act harshly. He led a difficult people with patience and compassion. His closeness with God was deeply tied to his meekness.
This shows us that gentleness invites God’s presence and favor. It is not just a personality trait; it’s a spiritual posture that God honors.
GENTLENESS IS A FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT
Paul teaches in Galatians 5:22-23
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”
Gentleness isn’t natural—it’s supernatural. It’s formed in us as we yield to the Holy Spirit.
HOW TO BECOME GENTLE
1. Humble Yourself
God honors humility. James 4:6 says:
“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”
Admitting weakness, accepting correction, and submitting to God are steps toward gentleness. Those who refuse to be led will never grow in this grace.
2. Control Your Anger
Proverbs 15:1 says:
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Gentleness is tested when you’re wronged. When you respond without retaliation, you reflect Christ. Practice silence over shouting, prayer over pride.
3. Stay in the Word and in Prayer
Romans 12:2
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Reading Scripture renews your thoughts and softens your heart. Prayer draws you closer to the Holy Spirit, who produces gentleness within you.
Gentleness is not optional for a believer—it’s a sign of spiritual maturity. Jesus was gentle. Moses was gentle. If we want to walk closely with God and be a light in this world, we must seek gentleness too.
Let us pray:
“Lord, make us gentle like Christ. Teach us to lead with humility, respond with patience, and walk in the Spirit daily. Amen.”
DORCAS, ALSO KNOWN AS GAZELLE
Acts 9:36
“In Joppa there was a disciple named Tabitha (in Greek her name is Dorcas); she was always doing good and helping the poor.”
In this short passage, we find profound theological truths hidden within a simple biography. Tabitha, or Dorcas, wasn’t just a kind woman—she was a symbol of what the Church is called to be: active, generous, and spiritually alert.
1. The Significance of Names in Scripture
When the Bible gives the meaning of someone’s name, it’s intentional. In ancient Jewish culture, names carried deep spiritual symbolism. Just as God changed Abram’s name to Abraham (Genesis 17:5), or Saul became Paul (Acts 13:9), names often reflected a person’s divine calling or character.
John 1:42
“And he brought him to Jesus. Jesus looked at him and said, ‘You are Simon son of John. You will be called Cephas’ (which, when translated, is Peter).”
“Peter,” or “Petros” in Greek, means rock. Jesus uses this symbol to point toward the foundational revelation that Peter received about Him.
Matthew 16:18
“And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it.”
This shows that name meanings can represent a person’s spiritual identity and destiny. Likewise, Tabitha is called “Dorcas,” meaning gazelle—a choice filled with spiritual meaning.
2. Why a Gazelle?
A gazelle is swift, agile, and graceful. In biblical symbolism, animals like gazelles (or deer) often represent spiritual readiness, strength, and mobility in God’s service.
2 Samuel 2:18
“Now Zeruiah’s three sons were there: Joab, Abishai and Asahel. Now Asahel was as fleet-footed as a wild gazelle.”
1 Chronicles 12:8
“Some Gadites defected to David at his stronghold in the wilderness. They were brave warriors, ready for battle and able to handle the shield and spear. Their faces were the faces of lions, and they were as swift as gazelles in the mountains.”
Habakkuk 3:19
“The Sovereign LORD is my strength; he makes my feet like the feet of a deer, he enables me to tread on the heights.”
Dorcas is likened to a gazelle not because of physical beauty or speed alone, but to emphasize her spiritual agility—she was quick to act in kindness, fast to serve, and always ready to help others.
3. The Gospel in Action
Dorcas’ lifestyle reflects the teachings of Jesus:
Matthew 5:16
“In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
She practiced James 1:27
“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress…”
Dorcas wasn’t a preacher or apostle, yet her deeds carried the fragrance of the Gospel. She clothed the needy, cared for widows, and supported the Church—acts of mercy that reflected the heart of Christ.
4. Divine Response to Human Readiness
After she died, the community in Joppa did something remarkable—they sent for Peter. Other people may have died around the same time, but it was Dorcas they pleaded for. That shows her spiritual impact.
Acts 9:39–40
“Peter went with them, and when he arrived he was taken upstairs to the room. All the widows stood around him, crying and showing him the robes and other clothing that Dorcas had made while she was still with them. Peter sent them all out of the room; then he got down on his knees and prayed. Turning toward the dead woman, he said, ‘Tabitha, get up.’ She opened her eyes, and seeing Peter she sat up.”
God honored her life by resurrecting her, showing how He values the faithfulness of His servants.
Reflection
Are we like Dorcas—swift to give, help, and serve?
Do we need to wait for reminders, or are we spiritually agile—ready to respond to the needs around us?
Let us not delay in doing good, so that when we are in need, God also will be swift to act.
Hebrews 6:10
“God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.”
Final Prayer
Lord, make our feet swift to obey, like the feet of Dorcas. May we reflect Your heart through our actions, and may Your Spirit make us ready and willing to do good at all times.
Shalom.
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Is It Really Necessary to Partake in the Lord’s Supper?
Some believers may wonder: If I choose not to participate in the Lord’s Supper for personal reasons—perhaps discomfort or lack of desire—but I still follow other Christian teachings, will I still be saved?
This is a serious and important question, and the answer according to Scripture is clear: No—deliberately refusing the Lord’s Supper puts one’s salvation at risk.
1. Some Commands in Scripture Are Optional—Others Are Not
There are teachings in the Bible that are optional, like marriage. Scripture gives principles for marriage, but it does not require everyone to marry.
1 Corinthians 7:1–2
“It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.”
Choosing not to marry is a valid and acceptable choice. It does not violate any biblical command.
However, some practices are mandatory for all believers, and partaking in the Lord’s Supper is one of them. Others include baptism and, in some traditions, foot washing.
2. The Lord’s Supper Is a Command, Not a Suggestion
The Lord’s Supper—also called Communion—is not just a church tradition. It is a command given by Jesus Himself.
In John 6:53–54 in, Jesus says:
“Most assuredly, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink His blood, you have no life in you.
Whoever eats My flesh and drinks My blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day.”
This is a strong and direct statement. Jesus ties eternal life and resurrection to participation in His body and blood—symbolized in the bread and the cup.
This is why deliberately avoiding the Lord’s Supper—even if you follow other commands—puts you outside the promise of eternal life. You are refusing a channel of grace and obedience that Jesus said is essential.
3. We Must Obey God on His Terms, Not Ours
The Christian life is not lived on personal preferences. We don’t get to say, “I don’t like bread,” or “I feel uncomfortable with wine,” and excuse ourselves from the Lord’s commands.
When Jesus instituted the Lord’s Supper, He said:
Luke 22:19
“This is My body which is given for you; do this in remembrance of Me.”
“Do this” is a command. Just like baptism is not optional (Mark 16:16), the Lord’s Supper is not optional for those who have received Christ.
Avoiding these acts deliberately, even when you understand their importance, is a form of rebellion.
4. Willful Disobedience After Knowing the Truth Brings Judgment
There may be grace for people who have never heard or been taught about the necessity of the Lord’s Supper. But for those of us who have heard, understood, and still choose not to obey—we are without excuse.
Hebrews 10:26
“For if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins…”
To willfully reject the Lord’s Supper after knowing its importance is to knowingly reject one of Christ’s commands.
5. Examine Yourself Before You Partake—But Still Partake
Some avoid the Lord’s Supper out of fear that they are not “worthy.” But Scripture does not tell us to avoid it—it tells us to examine ourselves first and then participate.
1 Corinthians 11:27–29
“Therefore whoever eats this bread or drinks this cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be guilty of the body and blood of the Lord.
But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of the bread and drink of the cup.
For he who eats and drinks in an unworthy manner eats and drinks judgment to himself, not discerning the Lord’s body.”
We should not be casual about the Lord’s Supper—but we also should not avoid it. The solution is repentance and preparation, not disobedience.
May we honor the Lord’s command, walk in humility, and remain faithful until the day of His return.
Grace and peace to you.
Are There Two Passover Feasts in the Bible? (Numbers 9:11)
Question: According to Numbers 9:11, does the Bible mention two Passover celebrations in a single year?
Numbers 9:11 (NIV)
“They are to celebrate it on the fourteenth day of the second month at twilight. They are to eat the lamb, together with unleavened bread and bitter herbs.”
Answer:
Yes, God commanded the Israelites to celebrate Passover every year on the 14th day of the first month of their calendar. This feast commemorated the night God delivered Israel from slavery in Egypt (Exodus 12). It was a sacred and mandatory celebration for all Israelites.
However, in Numbers 9, we see God giving instructions for a second Passover, to be observed exactly one month later—on the 14th day of the second month. Why was this second date permitted?
It was intended only for those who were unable to participate in the first Passover due to:
- Being ceremonially unclean (especially from touching a dead body – Numbers 19:11),
- Or being on a long journey far from the assembly.
According to the law, anyone who was ritually unclean could not join the congregation in worship until they were cleansed, which often took at least seven days. As a result, some Israelites missed the first Passover.
God, in His mercy and justice, provided a way for them to still observe this important feast. Let’s read:
Numbers 9:10–12 (NIV)
[10] “Tell the Israelites: ‘When any of you or your descendants are unclean because of a dead body or are away on a journey, they may still celebrate the Lord’s Passover.
[11] They are to celebrate it on the fourteenth day of the second month at twilight. They are to eat the lamb, together with unleavened bread and bitter herbs.
[12] They must not leave any of it till morning or break any of its bones. When they celebrate the Passover, they must follow all the regulations.’”
This second Passover was a gracious exception—a chance for those who missed the original date not to be left out of the Lord’s appointed feast.
Should We Still Celebrate the Passover Today?
Under the New Covenant, we no longer observe Passover in a physical or ceremonial way as the Israelites did. That was a shadow of what was to come.
1 Corinthians 5:7 (NIV)
“For Christ, our Passover lamb, has been sacrificed.”
Jesus is our true Passover Lamb. His death fulfilled everything the original Passover symbolized: deliverance, protection through the blood, and freedom from slavery—this time from sin, not Egypt.
Therefore, we now live in a continuous state of spiritual Passover, walking daily in the freedom Christ purchased for us.
What About Valentine’s Day? Is It Similar to the Second Passover?
Some have tried to compare the February 14 celebration of Valentine’s Day to the second Passover found in Numbers 9, since both fall on the 14th day of the second month (according to the Gregorian calendar). However, this comparison is completely misguided.
- The Hebrew calendar differs from the Gregorian calendar.
The second month in the Hebrew calendar is not February. - The purpose and spirit of Valentine’s Day have no connection to God or biblical holiness.
Valentine’s Day is rooted in pagan traditions and emphasizes romantic love and sensual pleasures—things that often lead people away from God, not toward Him. - The love portrayed on Valentine’s Day is not the agape love of God.
The love God calls us to walk in is sacrificial, pure, and holy—totally different from the world’s portrayal of love.
Conclusion:
The second Passover was a special provision by God to allow His people to remain connected to Him, even when they missed the original feast. It was holy, set apart, and full of spiritual meaning.
Valentine’s Day, on the other hand, is not a biblical feast, nor is it inspired by God’s love. It is a worldly celebration, often leading to impurity, materialism, and carnal desires.
As believers, we are not called to blend heavenly truths with worldly customs. Let us reject pagan festivals and instead honor the Lord by living daily in the power of Christ’s Passover.
Romans 13:14 (NIV)
“Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.”
Let us celebrate Christ’s sacrifice daily in spirit and in truth—not just on a date, but in the way we live.
Kindly share this truth with others who may be confused about these matters. May the Lord bless you and keep you.
DO NOT BE AN ENEMY OF GOD
1. The Spiritual Reality of Allegiances
While traveling one day, I heard someone say on the radio:
“The friend of your enemy is also your enemy.”
It means that if someone supports your opponent—even unknowingly—they align themselves against you.
This might seem like a worldly saying, but it mirrors a powerful spiritual truth in Scripture: whoever chooses to be a friend of the world, becomes an enemy of God.
2. Friendship with the World Equals Opposition to God
James 4:4
“Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.”
The word “adulterers” here is spiritual—it refers to people who have committed spiritual infidelity, turning away from God to love the world. Friendship with the world is not neutral; it’s betrayal.
To be God’s friend, you must be separate from the world’s value system.
3. What Does “The World” Mean in Scripture?
The “world” in this context doesn’t refer to creation or people—it refers to a spiritual system of rebellion under Satan’s control. This includes ungodly desires, entertainment, pride, and materialism.
1 John 2:15–17
“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.
And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.”
When we love what the world loves, we reject what God loves. The world is passing away—but the one who follows Christ will live eternally.
4. The Devil’s Influence Over the World
Luke 4:5–6
“Then the devil, taking Him [Jesus] up on a high mountain, showed Him all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time.
And the devil said to Him, ‘All this authority I will give You, and their glory; for this has been delivered to me, and I give it to whomever I wish.’”
Satan offered Jesus the world’s kingdoms because they are under his influence. When people pursue worldly pleasures and values—fame, wealth, power—they unknowingly honor the devil’s system, not God’s.
5. Common Forms of Worldliness
Being a “friend of the world” can look like:
- Loving secular entertainment that glorifies sin
- Listening to music that promotes immorality or pride
- Watching films and shows filled with profanity and sexual sin
- Participating in gambling, betting, or violent sports
- Chasing fashion, social media fame, and material status
These things are not spiritually neutral.
They shape our hearts, desensitize us to sin, and turn our love away from God.
6. The Judgment Reserved for God’s Enemies
God is merciful—but He is also just. Those who remain in rebellion, as His enemies, face His judgment.
Jeremiah 46:10
“For this is the day of the Lord God of hosts, a day of vengeance, that He may avenge Himself on His adversaries…”
Nahum 1:2
“God is jealous, and the Lord avenges; The Lord avenges and is furious. The Lord will take vengeance on His adversaries, and He reserves wrath for His enemies.”
Hell is real, and God’s wrath is coming upon all who reject His lordship and embrace the world.
7. What Shall It Profit?
Jesus challenges us to think eternally:
Mark 8:36–37
“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?”
No amount of worldly success is worth eternal loss. It’s time to choose whom you’ll serve—Christ or the world.
8. A Call to Repentance and Salvation
If you realize today that you’ve been a friend of the world and therefore an enemy of God, there is hope. Jesus died to reconcile enemies back to God (Romans 5:10).
Today, you can become His friend and follower by turning from sin and surrendering fully to Him.
Prayer of Salvation
Heavenly Father, I come to You today. I realize I’ve lived in ways that made me Your enemy. I’ve loved the world and rejected Your ways. I repent of my sins—all the things I’ve done knowingly and unknowingly.
Lord Jesus, I believe You died for me and rose again. I accept You as my Savior and Lord. Forgive me and cleanse me. Today I renounce Satan, I reject the world and its desires, and I surrender my life to You.
Holy Spirit, come into my life. Strengthen me to walk in truth, and separate myself from everything that displeases God. Thank You, Lord Jesus, for saving me. In Your name I pray, Amen.
9. What to Do After This Decision
If you prayed that prayer with sincerity and faith, welcome into God’s family. Here are the next steps:
a) Separate Yourself from Worldly Influence
Delete ungodly music, TV shows, gambling apps, and anything that tempts you to sin. Give the Holy Spirit room to work.
b) Surround Yourself with Godly People
Let go of friendships that pull you into sin. Seek those who talk about Christ, pray, and pursue righteousness.
c) Read Your Bible and Pray Daily
Start with the Gospel of John. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand.
d) Get Baptized in the Name of Jesus
According to Acts 2:38
“Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.”
This is not a symbolic act—it is a step of obedience and covenant with Christ.
May the Lord bless you and keep you.
MARRIAGE INSIGHTS: The Role of In-Laws in God’s Design
Greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. To Him be glory, honor, and power forever. Amen.
This message continues our teaching series on Christian marriage—focusing on a critical, yet often neglected, area: the role of in-laws, particularly your father-in-law and mother-in-law, in building a godly and fruitful marriage.
1. Marriage Is a Covenant That Extends Beyond the Couple
Marriage is not just a bond between two people. It’s a covenant that unites two families. This covenant comes with responsibilities—not just to your spouse, but to your spouse’s family. The Bible tells us:
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
—Genesis 2:24
While this verse speaks of leaving the parental home to form a new unit, it does not suggest cutting ties or neglecting responsibilities to extended family—especially in-laws. In fact, biblical examples show the exact opposite: relationships with in-laws can be channels of blessing or sources of unnecessary strife, depending on how we handle them.
2. THE MOTHER-IN-LAW: A Channel of Favor
Let’s consider the story of Ruth and Naomi, her mother-in-law.
When Ruth’s husband died, she had every reason to return home and remarry, as her sister-in-law Orpah did. But Ruth clung to Naomi, choosing loyalty over convenience:
“But Ruth replied, ‘Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.’”
—Ruth 1:16
This wasn’t just emotional loyalty—it was spiritual insight. Ruth recognized the spiritual covering and destiny connection with Naomi. That decision positioned her for divine favor. She eventually married Boaz and became the great-grandmother of King David—and part of the lineage of Jesus Christ (see Matthew 1:5–6).
Key Principle: As a married woman, your honor and spiritual growth are not only nurtured through your husband, but also through how you relate to your mother-in-law. Don’t overlook the blessings God may want to give you through her.
Even if she is not perfect, humility and honor can unlock divine favor. As Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”
—James 4:6
3. THE FATHER-IN-LAW: A Source of Wisdom
Now, for the men: your wife’s father is not just your wife’s dad—he can be a vessel of divine wisdom. Consider Moses and his father-in-law Jethro (also known as Reuel).
Moses had direct access to God. He led the Israelites, performed miracles, and received the Ten Commandments. Yet, in Exodus 18, we see that Jethro provided a leadership model that even Moses hadn’t received from God directly.
“Moses’ father-in-law replied, ‘What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out… Select capable men from all the people… Have them serve as officials… That will make your load lighter.’”
—Exodus 18:17–22
Moses listened:
“Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said.”
—Exodus 18:24
Despite being a prophet, Moses received practical help and divine order through his father-in-law’s counsel—a powerful reminder that wisdom can come through human relationships, even when you’re spiritually mature.
Key Principle: As a husband, don’t disregard your father-in-law. His advice may not come through prophecy or miracles—but God can use him to stabilize your home, guide your decisions, or even save you from unnecessary burdens.
4. In-Law Relationships Are Part of Your Spiritual Health
Honoring your in-laws is not just a cultural or emotional duty—it’s a spiritual principle. The command to honor is broader than just parents:
“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”
—Exodus 20:12
This includes all parental figures who become part of your family through marriage. If you ignore or disrespect them, you risk cutting off a channel of blessing that God Himself established.
Final Encouragement
Your in-laws are not random additions to your life. They are part of God’s design in your marriage journey. Whether they are kind or difficult, wise or flawed, God can use them to mature you, bless you, and guide you—if you walk in humility, wisdom, and honor.
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
—Romans 12:10
So whether you’re a husband or wife, don’t isolate your marriage from your in-laws. Embrace your new spiritual family and see what God will do through them.
May the Lord bless your marriage, give you discernment, and fill your home with peace and favor.
THE GRACE GOD GAVE TO MARY
Many people read Luke 1 and assume that Mary’s greatest honor was giving birth to Jesus. While that’s true in part, Scripture reveals something deeper. The grace God gave Mary was not simply to bear Christ, but to believe His Word.
1. The Angel’s Words: Mary Found Favor with God
“And he came to her and said, ‘Greetings, O favored one, the Lord is with you!’ But she was greatly troubled at the saying, and tried to discern what sort of greeting this might be. And the angel said to her, ‘Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God.’”
(Luke 1:28–30)
The word “favor” here in Greek is charis, which is the same word translated elsewhere as “grace.” This means Mary was graced by God, not because of her own merit, but because of God’s sovereign choice.
But notice something important: Mary was not told she received grace because she would bear Jesus; rather, she received grace so that she could believe God’s Word about bearing Jesus.
2. Mary’s Belief vs. Zechariah’s Doubt
Compare Mary’s response with that of Zechariah, who was also visited by the angel Gabriel.
Zechariah, a priest, was told his wife Elizabeth would bear a son (John the Baptist). Unlike Mary, he doubted:
“And Zechariah said to the angel, ‘How shall I know this? For I am an old man, and my wife is advanced in years.’”
(Luke 1:18)
Gabriel responded:
“Behold, you will be silent and unable to speak until the day that these things take place, because you did not believe my words…”
(Luke 1:20)
This shows us something key: Zechariah heard a less miraculous message, yet still doubted. Mary heard a far more impossible message, yet believed.
3. True Grace Enables True Faith
Grace is more than unmerited favor—it is divine empowerment. Paul reminds us:
“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.”
(Ephesians 2:8)
Mary’s faith wasn’t just her own—it was a gift of grace. Her belief in the miraculous conception wasn’t natural—it was spiritual.
4. Why Mary? God Gives Grace to the Humble
Mary’s unique qualification was her humility. She said:
“For he has looked on the humble estate of his servant.”
(Luke 1:48)
This aligns with what the Bible teaches:
“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”
(1 Peter 5:5)
Mary’s lowly position and humble heart positioned her to receive God’s greatest favor. Not just in womb, but in heart, she carried the Word.
5. Parallel with the Widow of Zarephath
Jesus referenced this in Luke 4:25–26, showing how God’s provision often goes to those outside the expected circle—those with faith and humility:
“But in truth, I tell you, there were many widows in Israel… and Elijah was sent to none of them but only to Zarephath, in the land of Sidon, to a woman who was a widow.”
(Luke 4:25–26)
Just like Mary, the widow believed the Word of God through the prophet—even when it seemed unreasonable (1 Kings 17:8–16).
6. What Can We Learn?
Mary’s story teaches us that God grants grace not to the most religious or powerful—but to the humble who believe.
- Want grace to walk in God’s calling? Be humble.
- Want faith to believe the impossible? Stay low before God.
- Want to do great things? Start with obedience in small things.
“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.”
(1 Peter 5:6)
A Call to Humble Faith
Mary’s greatness was not her status—it was her heart. A quiet, prayerful, obedient young woman became the vessel of the Savior, not because she was perfect, but because she believed.
As we wait for Christ’s return, may we seek this same grace:
Grace to believe, grace to obey, grace to be humble.
Lord, make us like Mary. Help us walk in the grace to believe Your Word, and give us hearts that remain low before You. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
THE WORD OF GOD IS THE COMPLETE REVELATION
“Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” – Psalm 119:105
May the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ be praised.
As we grow in our faith, we must always remember this vital truth: God’s Word, the Bible, is the most complete and reliable revelation of His will. While dreams, visions, and personal revelations may occur—and may even come from God—they are not sufficient on their own. They must always be tested and grounded in Scripture.
1. The Example of Pilate’s Wife: A True Dream but Incomplete Revelation
Before Jesus was crucified, Pilate’s wife had a disturbing dream warning her husband not to be involved in Jesus’s death. The Bible records:
Matthew 27:19
“While Pilate was sitting on the judge’s seat, his wife sent him this message: ‘Don’t have anything to do with innocent man, for I have suffered a great deal today in a dream because of him.’”
This dream clearly testified to Jesus’s innocence and righteousness. It’s logical to conclude that this dream came from God because Satan would never affirm Christ’s righteousness or work against the crucifixion plan (John 8:44).
However, we must ask: if the dream was from God and showed Jesus shouldn’t be crucified, does that contradict the divine plan for Christ to die and rise again?
Absolutely not. God never contradicts Himself. The dream was true, but not complete.
2. The Full Revelation: Found in the Word
Luke 9:22
“And he said, ‘The Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, and he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life.’”
This was God’s redemptive plan all along. Christ, though innocent, had to die for our sins:
Isaiah 53:5
“But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.”
Pilate’s wife saw one side of the truth—Jesus was innocent—but without the context of Scripture, she couldn’t see the redemptive purpose behind His suffering. This is why we must interpret all spiritual experiences in the light of the Word.
3. Scripture Over Dreams
The prophet Jeremiah makes a profound comparison between dreams and the Word of God:
Jeremiah 23:28–29
“Let the prophet who has a dream recount the dream, but let the one who has my word speak it faithfully. For what has straw to do with grain?” declares the Lord. “Is not my word like fire,” declares the Lord, “and like a hammer that breaks a rock in pieces?”
Note: Straw (dreams) is lightweight and cannot sustain life; grain (the Word) is nourishing and life-giving. Dreams can reveal partial truth, but only God’s Word reveals saving truth (Romans 10:17).
4. Be Grounded in the Word
Perhaps you’ve had dreams or spiritual experiences that seem to indicate you’re on the right path. Maybe you’ve dreamed of going to heaven. But are you living in holiness? Or are you still trapped in sin—lying, sexual immorality, hatred, or drunkenness?
Galatians 5:19–21
“The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity… envy, drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
Even if an angel in your dream says you’re approved by God, if you’re living contrary to the Word, the dream is incomplete or misleading. God’s truth never changes. Only the Word defines the standards for eternal life.
5. Final Judgment is Based on the Word, Not Dreams
John 12:48
“There is a judge for the one who rejects me and does not accept my words; the very words I have spoken will condemn them at the last day.”
Dreams, visions, and prophecies will not be the basis of final judgment—God’s Word will.
6. Let the Word Complete Your Revelation
Pilate’s wife had a real dream from God, but she lacked the full picture because she didn’t have the Word. Let that not be our case.
- Read and study the entire Bible—not just portions.
- Submit your dreams and revelations to Scriptural testing (1 John 4:1).
- Learn the teachings and life of Jesus.
- Be led by the Holy Spirit not only in dreams but in understanding Scripture (John 16:13).
2 Timothy 3:16–17
“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”
Spend time in the Word. Ground your spiritual experiences in the truth of Scripture. Then your visions and revelations will not be straw, but solid grain.
May the Lord bless you richly.
